Q: Hi Susun,
First off please excuse my grammer , and also I don't use paragraphs, just never have. My name is ...., 48yrs., just divorced 2yrs ago, my choice, just sent 2nd daughter off to college, just 1 yr. ago older daughter got married, planned that. I was taking care of my xmother in law for approx 3yrs, 24/7 dying with cancer, soley me ,until hospice stepped in, she passed in Oct.04. am in a relationship presently witha women, which is so so these days. Anyway my point is I believe i was thrown into menopause, like a bat out of hell, I have the hot flashes , my period ended approx 1 1/2 yearago, don't miss the period, and coping with the flashes, my way of dealing is to anounce to anyone around me that I am now having a hot flash and you are all invited, and I and they laugh it off with me. I can't say they are real bad, but I have only other women to compare to. I take lots of vities, women s one daily, primose oil, fish oil, flax seed oil, vit,c, black cohosh, red yeast rice, 5htp ,promensil for the flashes ,garlic, caltrate,biotin, juice plus fruits and veggies, drink lots of water, have a massage every month, acupunture for aches and pains , not to much. I eat pretty healthy, once in a blue moon , a beer or smoke a little pot here and there.On the down side my exercise sucks lately, soon hope to get back to a routine. Anyway, I think I am alittle depressed, insomina lastcouple of days , oh i do see a therapist once a week,which i love to unload, I cry too much, overwelmed just want to run and hide from everyone ,and not look back. I know your not my therapist, but I thought maybe you could find my missing link, if in fact it is herbal, or am i just a big ball of mess waiting to explode,alot going on. I love my kids, I love people , I even love life, its just not loving me back these days. I feel like im a little crazy. Its almost 3am and i just too k a xanax out of despration, because i am not a pill popper and i found your site on the computer. I believe in what you stand for but just don't know how to get started, soooo am i a canadate??? Please respond, by the way I talk more than I write , just to warn you. thanks for letting me unload
A: Hello ..., I hear you. I hear a lot going on and sometimes it feels a little overwhwelming and out of your control. I am a student of Susun's and help with her correspondence. I have not yet gone through menopause, but through my work here have listened to many who are or have. I have heard what you describe before - sounds like so much going on that is unfamiliar emotionally and feels out of control. I have heard it most often on our Wise Woman forum. So often a woman will write in asking "what's wrong with me?" and many will respond with, "relax, I went through it too, you will get through it." Relax if you can, continue to find ways to nourish yourself, like with massage acupressure, good foods and exercise as you feel drawn to do it. Many of the supplements you are taking are not in my realm of nourishing, though I hear that is what they are for you, so I can not comment on them. I would encourage nourishing herbal infusions, especially Oatstraw and Nettles. You can learn more about all this in this article written by Susun on Healthy Menopausal Years. I also support you in continuing to nourish yourself emotionally as I hear you doing - sharing and laughing with friends, letting it all out with a therapist, crying... perhaps you can let yourself run and hide once in a while as well. Here are another two articles written by Susun which may help: one on avoiding depression and one on achieving instant calm. If you have any further questions I can help with let me know. I encourage you to read these articles if you haven't already, even if you will be calling Susun since it will give you an idea of some of what she will say, and prepare you with any more specific questions you may have
Blessings,
Karen Joy
wisewoman@herbshealing.com
www.wisewomanweb.com
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