sadness

Q: Hi,

My son is now 8months and my partner and I have been feeling pretty depressed and tired for while. We are new in this relationship (we got pregnant after four months together) so we have a lot of kinks to work out but we haven't been doing a good job of this because we are so tired and blah. Our friend has been taking antidepressants because she feels like life should be about joy and she is accepting to bend her prejudice against conventional medicine. I am thinking about this... I do not want to expose my baby to yelling any more and if this can give us the energy and cloud-clearing we need to get our lives in order well maybe we should take them... They seem like they would give us relief sooner than the herbs which could take months or longer. We want to feel better.

We want to be good parents... But we are afraid of side-effects and feeling drugged. Is there anything on the forum about this kind of thing?

Have you any resources or counsel for me?

Thank you infinitely.

Peace, R.

PS: I know meditation helps but have you ever felt like you don't even have the mind room/motivation for things that you know are good for you and would feel good?...

 

A: Hello R., I DO know what you mean about having so much going on it seems overwhelming to do something that another moment may seem simple and obvious. I support you in doing whatever right now feels possible and pleasurable. So many of us have gone through, or are going through, times where we may "know" we could just do this and this and this, but we want relief and change now! I hear you want peace and you want the best for your child. This is beautiful. I hear you know that nourishing choices take time, and a pill may be faster, though bring other possibly unwanted affects.

I do think the forum can be of help, in many ways - emotional/mental support, alternative ideas and knowledge for and against the pills.

Whatever you do! please also, as soon as you feel able, start doing those things you know can help you. Even if you choose pills, choosing too one thing, no matter how simple, like an infusion one day a week, a ten minute walk one day a week. Make it small and easy and just do it. These littlest things help us towards other steps.

I am happy to talk with your more. I will keep an eye for your email so I can respond sooner...

lots of love, Karen Joy
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www.wisewomanweb.com

Comments

[marigold]

please try not to succumb to the anti depressants. I did for two years, they dont bring joy, they actually prevent it. I lost the joy of music and cooking, not realizing they fell to the wayside until I got off the drug. not to mention that getting off the meds was the worst I've ever felt. I am nursing at the keyboard, but wish I could say more. please try counceling alone before drugs. I really rhink they should be reserved for suicidal cases only.